Double-binding is a conversational technique that doesn’t allow the other person to say “no.” Don’t beg the other person, as even a hint of begging will likely result in an immediate “no” response.
The best dating conversational technique: Don’t let your partner say “no.”
The practice is to first ask the question with a choice question: “Should we do A or B?” Then, using the decision to do A (or B) as a precondition for the conversation, provide several plans for how to do A (or B).
For example, “Shall we go out for dinner or tea?” “I don’t have time.” “Then let’s have tea.” “Well, a cup of tea would be fine.” If you directly ask, “Can I go out with you?” the other person is likely to say “no.” However, if you answer “No” to the question “Should we go out for dinner or tea?”, it’s grammatically awkward and a bit incoherent. This makes the other person’s mind less inclined to think “No,” and they’ll become a little relaxed, easily thinking, “Oh, just a cup of tea is fine, it won’t take up too much time.”
Double restraint is a psychiatric term. For example, if a mother says “I love you” to her baby but then turns her head away and ignores the child, the child is experiencing double restraint, similar to being “at a loss.” The child is emotionally and physically dependent on the mother. If the mother shows no love, the child is unable to express their emotional differences to her. Suffering from double restraint for a long time can easily lead to schizophrenia. I understand double restraint as a way of causing the other person to experience cognitive dissonance, thereby defeating the purpose of preventing the other person from saying “No.”